After the adoption order…
So, the social workers have left, and the adoption order has been made. You and your family are finally left to your own devices. And they all lived happily ever after.
Unfortunately, sometimes its not that simple, and we’re talking from personal experience here.
Also, it’s not always easy to work out who to turn to for support. Again, personal experience.
Who can you turn to?
Other than the amazing resources we’ve got on this site, your Local Authority will have a Post Adoption Support Team, and they’ll be happy to speak to you and see how they can help. We know this might seem counter-intuitive after all the hoops we jumped through to bring our children home, but they really can be a great resource.
Whilst waiting times and services offered will differ from authority to authority, in this example taken from their website, we can see that our Local Authority, Lancashire, offers:
- counselling, advice and information
- training events and workshops on topics such as managing post adoption contact, telling, building relationships and therapeutic parenting.
- stay and play sessions for new families across Lancashire
- Family events across Lancashire
- an annual newsletter providing information about adoption and updates about Lancashire’s adoption service
- Buddying up with other adoptive parents
- advice, support and mediation with post adoption contact arrangements
- signposting and support in accessing relevant services
- access to SCAYT+, a team of emotional health workers, social workers and clinical psychologists.
- therapeutic work with children and families
- direct work with children including life story work
- assistance if relationships within the adoptive family are breaking down
- advocacy and liaison with education and Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS)
- financial support
In addition you can find information about what support is available once the ink is dry on the adoption order from:
The most important thing to remember is that you don’t have to do this alone, there’s a great deal of support out there that you can access, and it’s really ok to ask for it!