Another school year is upon us, and many of us will be back into the fray, fighting for the support our children need. Knowing how to advocate for your child is a vital skill we need to hone. After 10 years on the frontline, these are my top tips to help you.Continue reading
We seem to have reached breaking point!
Apparently mid-August is the point in the school summer holidays at which parents finally snap. We thought this would be a good time for some more tips to help you make it to the end of the summer holiday.Continue reading
Today we’re very honoured to have a guest post from the amazing Sarah Goldbart, on being adopted. This post is so heartfelt, honest, and moving, we’ve replicated it exactly ‘as is’.
You can find Sarah here, but before you go, grab a cuppa and some tissues, and enjoy her story of an amazing family full of love.
The very lovely Philippa Whipp asked me to write about what its like to be adopted, which is a wonderful excuse to talk about my much beloved and missed parents, Sheila & Len Goldbart. Pip’s only advice was to ‘just write from the heart’, so here goes…Continue reading
Let’s start at the very beginning
Our adoption support fund story starts pretty much the way this website started, in Starbucks, over coffee.
Pip was telling me about the ASF and I had a slack jawed expression and the feeling of a very useful door opening.Continue reading
As promised in my last post, today I’m going to signpost you to a whole host of resources for the Adoption Support Fund.Continue reading
I was going to start this post with the statement “I’m sure you’ve heard of the Adoption Support Fund (ASF)”. I then realised that assumption may not be true.
Our children have been home for 10 and 9 years respectively. Yet it’s only in the last 18 months or so that we’ve been accessing the ASF. So it really could be the case that you are an adoptive parent who hasn’t heard of this fund. Someone who could use some therapeutic input for your family. But maybe someone who has no idea how to that support and how to pay for it!Continue reading
What is triangulation?
Triangulation may be new terminology for you, but I’m sure that you’ll very quickly recognise it and how it is affecting your family.Continue reading
June is LGBT Pride Month. It’s a month where the LGBT community celebrates in glorious style.
This year is also the 50th year anniversary of the Stonewall riots; the catalyst for the modern LGBT rights movement.
As the mother of a child who is often, and I hasten to add, lovingly, described as ‘camp as Christmas’, and with friends within the LGBT community, I’m bewildered that we still need Pride Month.
That we still need to raise awareness, campaign for LGBT rights and raise political awareness. To try to stem a growing tide of bigotry and hatred against a whole community of people just because they are, quite wrongly, perceived as different.
Which then got me to thinking about our adopted children. I’ve had several conversations over the last month that have shocked and saddened me.
Conversations about children being repeatedly and systematically bullied for being adopted. Children who have fallen through the cracks due to to lack of funding or institutional apathy. Families who are not getting support because no one knows where to find it. And families who are still struggling to find ways to speak to their adopted children about their adoption story.
It is heartbreaking that in the 21st Century, we still cannot embrace everyone with open arms. Whatever their ethnicity, gender, sexuality, mental status, or even, how their family came together. That adopted children are being failed and stigmatised and traumatised even after placement.
So as Pride month comes to an end, lets each take a moment and practice a little more tolerance and inclusivity. Let’s fight a little harder for our children and loved ones.
We can’t change the world in one fell swoop, but if we all try, just a little bit, we can surely make a difference!
Such negative language
The world is irritating me at the moment.
From politics to Facebook, TV to business, there is an air of indifference and acceptance that the UK is quite frankly ridiculous. That it ‘Is what it is’.
At the same time, I have become acutely aware of the slip into negative language being used day to day. Now I don’t mean that the population of the UK is roaming around whining and bemoaning their lives (although…).Continue reading